All tagged Abuse

"His texts would slut shame me for sleeping with him and getting pregnant."

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Three Abortions, U.S.

“My third abortion happened after my divorce. I meet a guy and we were talking. We seem very compatible and we discussed everything before we even got intimate. This including children and if I get pregnant he would want to be part of the baby’s life. We both had good jobs, income and we were mature. I was 33 and he was 36. There were some yellow flags that turned red in the months I was dating him. I tried to break up with him, but he would ask me to give us a chance.” Read more.

"I’m not in a good place despite my endless trying to find a new happiness -- a trap that many women fall into with their abusers."

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Six Abortions, Location Not Given

“The take away of my story? Abortion is stigmatizing to the point women believe that it will cause infertility. I’ve done medical abortions and one in stirrups surgically. All safe and legal of course, so maybe that’s why I’m still fertile? I just want my own life story to hold out hope for others that it is your body. Abortions don’t make you a horrible person. They are safe — unlike right wingers saying. You still get pregnant after! Even if sometimes you’re still with an asshole man that you know you can’t keep the baby with.” Read more

"If I could go back, I would tell my 19-year-old self that it’s okay, and that I was not doing anything shameful or wrong."

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Two Abortions, U.S.

“When our child was around two years old, I got pregnant for the third time. We simply knew we did not want any more children, and it was quite honestly an easy decision for me to choose a medical abortion. I still didn’t have a lot of emotional support, but I was fortunately in a safe living situation this time around, and had learned a lot more about sexual health through social media.” Read more.

"Enduring those hardships was in itself truly hellish, and I try to remember that I deserve to move on and experience happiness and peace."

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Six Abortions, Texas, U.S.

“He was possessive and supported my addictions, and often he would have sex with me against my will and in humiliating ways. My boss also sexually abused me. I became pregnant four times while I was with my ex, on birth control two of the four times. He enjoyed knowing I was pregnant and felt that this made me in some way more his.” Read more.

"We never really ever forget, it will always be part of us, but we can move on and learn how to love ourselves the way we should."

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Three Abortions, Arizona, U.S.

“After talking to him , he refused to be a father. It didn’t matter how much I knew him, had memories with him, he just refused because he liked how his life was without children. But why did I have to pay for that pain? Anyway, I didn’t want to be a single mother of 2 kids so I had a surgical abortion.” Read more.

"A five-minute procedure has given me a pretty great life."

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Three Abortions, Ohio, Audio

“I knew I was having my first abortion so I could have children later — to give them a life that I thought maybe they deserved and I needed to give them as a mother. And the same theory goes forward with my abortions after I had children. I knew what kind of life I needed them to have. I knew what kind of horrible life I was secretly in already trying to find a way out of abuse.” Read more and listen to the audio version.

"I was so blinded by the love I had for him that I couldn’t see he didn’t love me or that I deserved better."

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Two Abortions, Location Not Given

“I was pro-choice, but if I was to ever get pregnant I told myself I’d always keep it. However, it’s easier said than done, especially when I know in my heart I can’t give my baby the life it deserves. I ended up terminating the second baby as well and I made a promise with myself that I’d never make any promises.” Read more.

"Our relationship was bad, he was financially and otherwise irresponsible, and I felt I was too old to have a baby."

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Three Abortions, Slovenia

“He wanted the child no matter what; he said it is his right. And yes, we did not use protection; he 'put it out'. He tried to cheat me several times by not putting it out. Yet, I still could not get away. I was addicted to his caressing; he could be so gentle with me, I wanted to believe he loved me. Until he one day did it again. I felt so cheated. A few days after, a neighbor told me he saw him kissing another neighbor. I was in a state of shock.” Read more.

"I was in a relationship with an abusive man who I knew was bad, but I felt trapped and desperately wanted his love."

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Five Abortions, Florida, U.S.

“I didn’t even consider keeping the baby. He already had 4 children he didn’t take care of, and I just wasn’t ready. I went to planned parenthood for the procedure. I was poor at the time and didn’t have the money for the anesthesia. I was 8 weeks. I was so scared the whole time I could barely stop myself from shaking. The second time I got pregnant I again knew I wanted an abortion, I was 20 or 21. Same man, and I was less than 10 weeks. Again, I went to planned parenthood, again couldn’t pay for the anesthesia. This time I didn’t want to go to the same location in fear of being judged.” Read more.

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