All in Three Abortions

"I didn't have the tools to navigate these situations due to my upbringing in a culture that didn't talk about sex or womb trauma."

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Three Abortions, California

“It was when I was seeking my third abortion that I realized I needed real, deep healing around the relationship choices I was making and what they cost my body, as well as some generational trauma I was carrying. My mom was forced to give up her firstborn. She was an immigrant from Peru, experiencing domestic violence, and she gave birth at a Catholic hospital where they didn't speak Spanish. They highly encouraged her to give up her child, which I feel is more coercion when you don't know the language. It's a secret she kept for 31 years, so there's womb trauma on my mom's side.” Read more.

"I was in my mid forties, divorced and dating someone who convinced me we could never get pregnant as we were too old."

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Three Abortions, Florida

“The last one was over 10 years ago. I’m now almost 60. I’ve had a lot of guilt lately about this all and making the same mistake again and again. I know I did the right thing as the first one made having my beautiful children possible and the last two prevented our lives from being so much more difficult then they already were. Even when I tried to have my first child, the baby died (my miscarriage) so it obviously wasn’t meant to be, just like my other pregnancies that I had to terminate.” Read more.

"To the woman that I judged in high school for having 2 abortions, I am so sorry."

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Three Abortions, Texas, U.S.

“Not once did I entertain having a baby. Sometimes I think about how old they would be now, but not much more. Those 3 abortions were not difficult decisions for me. I have also yet to encounter someone that doesn’t sit with me while I open up and talk about it. To anyone feeling alone, like I did during my first abortion, you are not! You have thousands of people in your corner.” Read more.

"We never really ever forget, it will always be part of us, but we can move on and learn how to love ourselves the way we should."

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Three Abortions, Arizona, U.S.

“After talking to him , he refused to be a father. It didn’t matter how much I knew him, had memories with him, he just refused because he liked how his life was without children. But why did I have to pay for that pain? Anyway, I didn’t want to be a single mother of 2 kids so I had a surgical abortion.” Read more.

"When I told him I was pregnant he screamed at me for two hours as I cowered on the couch."

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Three Abortions, California, U.S.

“My third abortion was only a few years later, in a new relationship with a good guy. He was a hard no and I just wasn't going to have and raise a child by myself that the child's father didn't want. That was the hardest one. But it was still the right choice. I wanted my child to be wanted and loved and at least start its life with a stable home.” Read more.

"A five-minute procedure has given me a pretty great life."

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Three Abortions, Ohio, Audio

“I knew I was having my first abortion so I could have children later — to give them a life that I thought maybe they deserved and I needed to give them as a mother. And the same theory goes forward with my abortions after I had children. I knew what kind of life I needed them to have. I knew what kind of horrible life I was secretly in already trying to find a way out of abuse.” Read more and listen to the audio version.

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