All tagged multiple abortions

“I have a 4 year old with someone who abused me and isn’t active in my child’s life and had a miscarriage after having my first baby with the same guy. Now I’m with someone whom I love very much.. Has anyone else here had multiple abortions like me??” — One of several replies: “Yes, I've had 3 abortions. It's common to have more than 1 . I mean think about it. Women can get pregnant til they're like 50.” Read more.

“I had my second abortion at age 42 and did have a moment of pause about it being likely my last chance to have a child. When I considered what I wanted my life to look like, and what I would want a child’s life to look like, they simply didn’t match up. I wasn’t in a place where I was willing to make the life changes needed to raise a child. I think every child born should be an intentional choice. People should be REALLY sure they want to give all that it takes to raise and support a thoughtful, kind human before having a baby.” Read more.

“I got knocked up in high school my senior year and my parents forced me to keep her. They didn't give me an option for abortion and when I brought up adoption they said I was a terrible mother. I was 19 years old when I had her. My mother had to quit her job and raise her grandchild because I wouldn't. I didn't want to. I don't love her like I should. Love her like a mother should love a daughter. We never got close. I resent her. I hate her father.” Read more.

This person’s call for help was posted on the Instagram account of Shout Your Abortion. What happened next was a huge flood of supportive comments filled with stories of others who have ended their pregnancies. More than 40 people responded with words of care and support. Read more.

“Making the decision to have an abortion is a complex and quiet calculus. Even when it feels uncomplicated, there are nuances. As a woman of color, I grew up like with so much stigma around not being an unwed teenage mother. Now that I'm older I wonder why I got so fixated on there being only one way –married—to have kids.” Read more.

“I am now a mother of 2 beautiful daughters. I don’t regret my choices, but I think about them often.” Read more.

“Ondertussen ben ik mama van 2 prachtige dochters. 𝙸𝚔 𝚑𝚎𝚋 𝚐𝚎𝚎𝚗 𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚓𝚝 𝚟𝚊𝚗 𝚖𝚒𝚓𝚗 𝚔𝚎𝚞𝚣𝚎𝚜 𝚖𝚊𝚊𝚛 𝚒𝚔 𝚍𝚎𝚗𝚔 𝚎𝚛 𝚠𝚎𝚕 𝚗𝚘𝚐 𝚟𝚊𝚊𝚔 𝚊𝚊𝚗.” Lees verder.

“An abortion means that you let go of possible future. Even when I was very sure about the decision and relieved after the operation, there was also sadness and mourning about it. The sadness about not being able to enjoy this other future, too!” Read. more.

“My mom wanted to have a baby on her terms. She didn't want to doom herself and her children to poverty and deprivation, so she waited to have children. Her body kept trying to change the schedule. So she terminated the pregnancies. She made this decision, evaluating her position and capabilities each time, on a number of occasions, which is nobody's business but her own. When she was ready, she had my brother and me.” Read more.

“I was already a mother when I had my abortions. I love my children. I believe that my work as a parent is my most important job. When I had my first abortion, I was a single mother. I had just found the courage to end an abusive relationship. It was an incredibly empowering and scary step to try to stand on my own when I had nothing. My baby girl was 9 months old and my income was well below the poverty line. I prayed and lifted all that was weighing upon me to God.” Read more.