“Neither man was capable of being a committed father-parent & I think children deserve to have two loving parents. Is it any wonder that I chose to abort?” Click the green title to read more.
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All in Two Abortions
“Neither man was capable of being a committed father-parent & I think children deserve to have two loving parents. Is it any wonder that I chose to abort?” Click the green title to read more.
“Two terminations for my own reasons, discussed with my partner, but my decisions ultimately; no regrets, and three healthy, beloved, well-cared for children later, I am positive that those were absolutely the right decisions.“ Click the green title to read more.
“I have had an abortion. Twice. Age 13 and 15. I was a child doing grown-up things in childish ways. They called me book-smart but lacking common sense. Who at 13 and 15 has common sense?” Click the green title to read more.
“I'm grateful for the compassionate medical care I received both times--and for a partner who agreed at age 48 to get a vasectomy.” Click the green title to read more.
“It's understood in our constitution that women are independent adults entitled with life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, whatever that means to them. That means that if I feel that carrying a fetus to term impinges on my life and liberty, then I have a right to terminate my pregnancy.” Click the green title to read more.
“The second pregnancy occurred as a result of rape by a stranger, a month after the previous abortion. I was traumatized by the rape and felt terrible about having another abortion so soon after the first one, but there was no doubt in my mind that it was the right thing to do. “ Click the green title to read more.
“So many people assume that the decision to have an abortion is heavy, but for me it was simply a medical choice. I didn't want children, and there was no heartache about the situation.” Click the green title to read more.
“Today at 66 years of age I don't have to worry about getting pregnant. I can't imagine a world where this option is taken away.” Click the green title to read more.
“My husband passed away when I was 32 and while it still makes me sad, I don’t regret the choice I made and I was grateful to have the choice.” Click the green title to read more.
“There were anti-abortion protesters outside the clinic, and I remember feeling incredibly angry that this group of men were trying to terrorise young women – some of the women looked barely even 14 – in the name of their god.” Click the green title to read more.
“I used to judge other girls who would get pregnant and have babies at 18, and then there I was, in the same boat.” Click the green title to read more.
“I do think about how old they would be from time to time, and they are in my thoughts at times.” Click the green title to read more.
“Some people may find this shocking - but it’s none of their business. My great-grandmother died of an illegal abortion in 1901. My grandpa was an orphan at 18 months old. Safe abortion should be a woman’s choice and right.” Click the green title to read more.
“So after the first time I got the coil put in, and then a year later, almost to the day practically, I got pregnant again, probably because the coil was sitting too low in the cervix, which reduced its effectiveness.” Click the green title to read more.
“So, I was 21 and living in America when I became pregnant by my boyfriend at the time. We were in a very intense and active relationship, and often used the withdrawal method for contraception. But by the time I knew I was pregnant he had left the country, so I went to have a backstreet abortion.” Click the green title to read more.
“It is hard not to write a list of justifications why.” Click the green title to read more.
“I came from a teenage mother myself. My mom was 14 when she had me. She didn’t want to have me, she didn’t want to be a parent — but she had no choice. I think about what I would look like as a parent in that situation, having a child who knew they weren’t wanted the way I knew I wasn’t wanted and I can’t imagine doing that. I think a lot of people think about the choice to have an abortion as a selfish one, but for me, the choice to not have one would have been the selfish one. A child deserves to be parented.” Click the green title to read more.
“What having two terminations doesn’t mean is that I am a stupid person, that I am useless, that I should be shunned by society, suffer punishment or live the rest of my life in a state of trauma. It also doesn’t mean that I don’t deserve to be loved. It was not easy for me to accept that. I have made these judgements about myself, consciously or unconsciously, at one time or another, in the five years following my terminations. I don’t want you to do the same.” Click the green title to read more.
“In my culture, talking about sex and birth control is forbidden. There’s an unspoken rule about sex – don’t have it. I had to find resources and answers to my questions on my own. . . . When I sought out resources I came across Aid for Women, a crisis pregnancy center that gave me misleading medical information and basically tried to talk me out of my abortion. It was incredibly belittling and hurtful.” Click the green title to read more.
“My mom has told me time and time again that she doesn’t understand why I share my story publicly. ‘You’re giving people a reason to judge you,’ she’ll tell me. But I’ve never seen it as that. Instead, I see speaking out as a way to show people that they don’t have to feel ashamed for having an abortion.” Click the green title to read more.