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I have never felt guilty for having more than one abortion.

Growing up in a house with a large dysfunctional family made me realize I didn’t want to pass on my trauma (although I didn’t know the words for that then).

It was just about me being emotionally and sexually immature and knowing I would not be able to raise a healthy child.

My girlfriend got pregnant in her early 20s and I took her to planned parenthood in Portland in the early morning hours for an abortion. This was in the late 1970s. It was dark outside and there was already a group of men harassing us.

It stuck out to me that these men had no right to shame us or talk about our choices on any level and I fought back. It felt good then and it still does.

I went to a therapist many years later for unrelated issues and we talked about my abortions and I told her I had no regrets and no shame. She couldn’t believe it and didn’t accept that view point from me.

This was a very enlightened therapist in San Francisco in the 90s and didn’t believe a woman was not ashamed of her abortions.

I’m 65 now and married and don’t have children because we chose not to. I love children and feel like they should be wanted, not a result of a sexual encounter that may or may not last.

When women have a child with someone that they no longer want in their lives it keeps a nasty relationship going and isn’t good for the child.

Women have been wrongly saddled with the responsibility of birth control forever. My husband had a vasectomy after he said he didn’t want children and I said I didn’t want to keep taking birth control.

We are made to feel guilty for making our well thought out choices. Don’t ever fall for it sweeties! You didn’t or aren’t killing a life. You are saving one or 2 or 3 or however many!!!! ❤️