This is an anonymous Reddit post followed by three replies.
Has anyone due to circumstances out of their control ended up having multiple abortions?
I had a termination in 2000, 2002, 2007, 2010. Two were from rapes as a minor and two were failure of contraceptives (pill plus condom!)
I'm facing the likelihood of needing to terminate again despite being massively careful.
I guess I feel shame at failing to prevent pregnancy. Even though I’m not taking risks!
My partner is furious and completely against the idea of having a child.
I feel worthless and I know that I can't handle the emotional turmoil that goes along with having another abortion.
Replies to this post:
Shame is a mostly useless emotion. Contraception has failed you. You have not failed contraception. Get the care you need and then get a better contraceptive method if you can. You are not alone.
If your partner doesn’t want a child, tell him to get a vasectomy. It shouldn’t be all on you to prevent this.
I’ve had 2. I felt a little ashamed I was in the situation again but eventually I got over it.