This story appears in the comments section of a New York Times article titled “Let’s Talk About My Abortion and Yours.”
Okay--perhaps it's time, as I am now past 70 years old. I have had 3 abortions. Two with one man, one with another. I regret nothing.
Perhaps once every year or two I may have romantic fantasies about "this young man/woman came into my life as a replacement for the child I did not have," but even those fantasies are without regret.
I was young, alone, with a low-wage job--so low, I was rationing the cost of a cup of tea or a newspaper. I knew the "love" I had for these men was mainly sexual, and their "love" for me was also primarily or totally sexual.
My BC methods failed, or I failed to use them properly. Or both. But none of this was a reason for me to be burdened with raising children for 20+ years, in a nation even then strongly averse to assisting mothers with heath care, education, food & housing support, etc.
I was and am extremely grateful for the early years of Rose v. Wade, which allowed us to obtain legal abortions without traveling to other states or nations.
Again--I have not once felt an ounce of regret, or remorse, or guilt. I believe there are millions like me who remain silent. We are legion.